This is a rather awkward first post, as I’m taking a few minutes to do this at work. My stomach is in knots over this, so bear with me. I’ve been wondering for a while if my wife is verbally and emotionally abusive toward me, and I think I’ve gotten my answer after perusing this website and a few others.The problems I’m facing now center around my own denial (ie: “It’s not *that* bad…”), and what to do about my marriage. The research I’ve done tells me what I should do, but my fear of the unknown, desire to shield my kids (five and two years old) from any further hurt, and lack of outside support have me spinning my wheels. I work two jobs during the week, and I spend weekends catching up on things that don’t get done during the week such as yardwork, cleaning around the house, and looking after the kids so my wife can get things done. This leaves almost no time or energy to devote toward finding a way to making the changes I need to make.Something that puzzles me through all this is the fact that I’m not angry. More accurately, I’m not angry when she’s not ripping into me. When I’m not “in the moment”, I’m not outraged at the way she treats me. I feel like I should be, but I’m not.Anyone else have similar experiences?