Hello All, I just found this site, great information! I’m a guy 57 ending a marriage with an abusive wife BPD (35 yrs). I know I was “dumb and dumber” but I woke up, Thank God!!! My question is how does it work or what kind of relationship can happen when two people fall in love with each other, when they each had previous past abusive partners? Does anyone have experience with this? Do they understand each other more, could that be a good match? Are there weaknesses in each other to look out for. Or do they share a common bond and strength? Thank you for your thoughts and reflections!!! Ranger100