Thought I’d share an update from my “Wow” thread… We have a behavior specialist helping my wife deal with our two year-old son’s behavior problems, and my wife ended up “venting” to her 2 weeks ago about her anger toward me. I was off from both my jobs last week, so the specialist met with the two of us to discuss the problems and how it might impact our kids. We talked for an hour or so, and were able to touch on a few points: The source of my wife’s anger, major differences in our communication style (some gender-based, some due to my ADHD), and the importance of my wife being able to accept certain things and move forward. She gave my wife the name of a therapist that she highly recommended.I came away from it feeling relieved that someone on the outside has an idea of what’s going on and could help identify things that need to change. She suggested that my wife and I each make a list of what we want from the other as husband/wife. I made a list, but I’m not sure if my wife did. I have asked her twice if she would like to discuss our lists, but she declined both times… I don’t know if she even made one.She didn’t call the therapist that the behavior specialist recommended, so I called this week. I started thinking that it was back to the same old same old of me having to do all the work to make things better, but if worse comes to worse, I want to be able to show that I made an effort to improving our relationship and being better role models for our kids. Scheduling and paying for sessions have proven to be significant obstacles that the therapist has agreed to be flexible with, but it has been difficult trying to work these out with my wife. I was ready to call the therapist this moring to tell her to forget it, but I got a message at work from my wife this morning asking me to hold off so we can talk about it again. I hope it’s a good sign, but I also don’t want to get my hopes up for nothing. We’ll see.