I went to visit a friend and his family on the weekend. I hadn’t seen them in about 2 years, because of issues with my NPD.When I got divorced from my first wife 8 years ago, my friend’s wife confided in me that he was emotionally abusive of her. I know he’s like that, and I did try to talk to him some about it over the years, but honestly, he’s an NPD, just like my 2nd wife, so you know as well as I do that it’s useless.Ended up that my friend’s wife and I had some time alone on the weekend, and she confided to me that he’s still very abusive, and that she wants to leave, but she’s worried about money, a place to stay, a job, etc. I gave her as much advice as I could. She kept coming up with reasons to stay. I told her she could come up with 1,000,000 reasons to stay, but she only needs one reason to go – She wants to be happy. She’d like to get counselling, but can’t afford it. I told her to find a community support group, which probably wouldn’t cost anything.I’ve told her that she can call me, and I will give her as much emotional support as I can, but I can’t get between them. He is my friend, and I do owe him some loyalty, and despite the fact I don’t agree with how he treats his wife, I’m not going to change him.The tricky part is that he later confided to me that he’d like a divorce, too, but doesn’t want to pay alimony. They have a daughter, and I know he’d pony up the child support. I explained to him that it’s rare for anyone to get alimony any more, but that if he’s serious, then he should talk to a lawyer.Bottom line is, if it costs me a friendship, I’m OK with it. I lived under the rule of a tyrant long enough to not want to see anyone else go through what I did.But I guess I can’t really do anything except be there to listen if either of them need to talk, but does anyone have any other suggestions? I’ve sent her this site, so maybe she’ll log in here and find the help she needs.