Hello All, All my BPD wife ever said was she didn’t want a “divorce” but could never, would never discuss the problems in the marriage to agree on what was not working. She just would never want to discuss the problems. As the marriage was it was fine for her and “I should just go along with it.” How many of you had this experience? (My wife was diagnosed as pathological BPD.) Over and over I offered counseling and therapy, she would never agree to anything. How could the marriage ever work if we could not identify what we each needed? My divorce was final last week. Thanks for your thoughts, reflections and comments. Take care, RangerPS: Thank God it is finally over!