- People of the Lie by Dr. Scott Peck
- Without Conscience by Dr. Robert Hare
- The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
- How you Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra L. Brown
- Broken children, Grown-up Pain by Paul Hegstrom
Charming AbusersH2H Group Discussion: Very helpful Information that I think should be sharedI decided to post the following again. I’m here for a little while and Tumbleweed brought the subject up to me. Maybe it will help someone here. I bring this writing up now and then when I’m here. I’ve revised it a bit, so for those oldtimers it might read differently in some places. Just like – don’t let a piece of my artwork stay in my house. I change it, all the time. But time and life is – change. So that’s natural. I hope this helps someone. It’s the only reason I wrote it. If truth falls on fertile soil, then it will bear good fruit that isn’t just good intentions or thoughts – they will be actions. Charming AbusersCharmer/Abusers are expert chameleons because it serves their purpose.1. C.A.’s looks for victims with the following characteristics:2. They listen intently to you, give you a great deal of attention in the beginning3. While they may not come over completely to your way of thinking about everything4. They quickly want to become physical with you5. He listens to what you tell him about6. He’s always calling you when you’re supposed to be home for no apparent reason7. C.A.’s will capitalize on your need8. C.A.’s need you to quickly put them into your inner circle9. C.A.’s do NOT respect you as a woman or as a person – at all ….BUT…. they will go to great lengths to convince you – they do. They will quickly put you up on a high pedestal, where they supposedly worship at your feet. No one in the world is more beautiful or more important in their lives. You are the bomb! Look at what I’ve got here! Just remember that I use the word “quickly” a lot. Someone genuinely thinking you’re wonderful and all that – isn’t necessarily bad. But, it is highly suspicious when it happens – very quickly and when it’s – Overkill. Sure, in some rare case, you could just click – if you meet the right person. But, I warn you about making this your basis for all your relationships. You are a sitting duck. Genuine feelings that really matter in the long run – take time. If it’s too fast and too good to be true – guess what?
[b]10. C.A.’s don’t have time. They have to do everything quickly.11. They will educate you on how women in their past have not met the mark with them.12. C.A.’s hit you hard and heavy and isolate you.13. They use circular reasoning on you a lot.14. They expect you to be all-seeing and all-knowing15. C.A.’s desensitize and numb their victim.16. Lastly, but definitely not the least of the red flags isC.A.’s are entitled brats and bullies. They respect nothing and no one.Books for further reading:Download the PDF file:Submitted by:Resource Reference: