Just wanted to say thank you so much for setting up such a wonderful and informative website dedicated to those who are victims of abuse. As someone who is emotionally numb right now, your site has helped me to put things into perspective and provided me with great tools/ideas to make changes for the better.I’ve been through a couple of abusive relationships and am sad to say in my third. I’ve been with my partner for six years and this weekend gone was the third time he physically abused me. My mother has put up with emotional/physical abuse from my father for over 50 years and continues to do so.She will never leave him, but it was inspiring to hear your aunt had the courage to leave after all those years and managed to live a few years of peace, freedom and happiness before her demise.Thank you again and again!!Dawn
I just wanted to take a moment and give you a big HUG and a THANK YOU.I ended an 8 yr abusive relationship just 9 months ago at the tender age of only 24. I began my young adulthood with someone that tore me apart. I have come to terms with the abuse. I no longer blame myself and I see the truth now.Reading through your sight was still enlightening though. It is wonderful help for abused women and men out there. Reading through it only reconfirmed all that I knew all along. There are NO innaccuracies with your advice.Thank you for supporting all the beautiful abused women out there. I want to spend my life giving to abused women and single mothers which I do by volunteering at a local shelter.Thanks again and have a blessed day,Melissa
Thank you. Especially for being the first website (when i clicked search) that gave the kindness and gentle support and info that I needed in a crucial time. :)Trish
Dear Heart 2 Heart people,Thank you so much for your website information. The reading of the information has helped us and our son immensely. He is now able to make decisions and focus. We are very grateful.L & K
I recently realized that I have been in an verbally and emotionally abusive relationship for 8 years.It all came when he told me he’d never marry me although we have a family and I have done everything in my power to make him happy. He never wanted me to have a job, he never wanted me to do anything that involved religion, he always said I was insecure and I started to be because he made me that way. I now know the signs and all thanks to the book “The Verbally Abusive Relatinship” by Patricia Evans and this Heart to Heart site.I’m not sure whether I’m going to leave him but because I know what to look for and my bounderies have been crossed, I can now take care of myself and not let him abuse me any longer.K H
THANK YOU for creating this website. I have read many books on abuse, but until this morning after going though a lecture on how “stupid” I am, I searched for answers online and found your site.Everything just clicked! I understand it so much more, and know that I have lost myself completly. In the last few years I have gone from a loving family social on top of it girl to withdrawn, paying everything late, lost my friends and beat myself up about it.Your site made me see that this is part of what abuse does to you. It’s given me strength to get out for good.Sincerely,Heather
Thought I would mention how much your site has open my eyes and helped me in these last couple of weeks. I was the victim of abuse all my life and the last 8 years in my marriage. Two weeks ago I decided to leave and have visited your site everyday.I am a professional web designer and wanted to extend my hand of support for your site. I am willing to offer anything you need. This is my payment for how your site assisted and informed me in these last couple of weeks.Thank You,Kris
Thank you so much for this. I had been reading and posting on sobberrecovery.com, and saw this link in someone’s post. I have visited and read from Robert Burney’s website several times, always feeling more free and self-loving afterwards.Initially, I visited a site, from a search (for a friend) on controlling, manipulative people and found a lengthy descriptive of emotional abuse on manhaters.com (for women who hate men who hate women).Were it not for those two websites and the paths they have lit for me, I might not have even known that I was in an abusive relationship in the first place. Having grown up in abuse and dysfunction, having several romantic and platonic abusive relationships, I didn’t even recognize it as something “wrong,” until I set out on my own to ease the pain of my PAST and became stronger from that.I am United Statesian (not a word), and have found much comfort, love, and support from this and similar websites (from UK and Canada, mostly), so I am thankful for the internet in that regard. I am especially appreciative of your sections on mental health (codependency, BPD, USP). I’ve been called “over-sensitive” by numerous people in my life…but not once from my friends in recovery.I have left the abusive situation, am in a shelter, and have found work and may very soon be in my own apartment with my daughters, age 8 and 5. I will pass this website address on to one of the Family Support Workers at the shelter. Thank God for you…you are doing Angels’ work here.K.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for this website. I left an emotionally abusive marriage seven months ago, and each day lived is another success for me. Your kind words and wisdom have touched me so deeply. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone.Despite the horror that I went through, I am now in my first year in medical school will fulfil my dream of becoming a doctor – one who is sensitive to the needs of battered women.I left him before he could take that away from me, too.-Raidah
I just wanted to send a little note to say that your site is great.I am a man who was in an abusive relationship. As you probably already know, there are very few resources out there for men who are being abused. Your site was extremely informative and greatly helped me to make my decision to leave my abuser.Anonymous