Hello. I am a mother of 2 teen daughters, 13 and 15. I am 2 years divorced from a high functioning alcoholic. Kids and I were in therapy for a year when therapists made the conclusion that XH was proobably suffering from a cluster B personality disorder (NPD). At that time he was physically abusive using grabbing, pushing, shoving with a small 9 year old. The therapist called social services on him twice and that scared him. Of course that is all my fault. He refused any therapy sessions but one and now claims he can not discipline at all because I get him in trouble. That is his justification for allowing the older to terrorize the younger when the kids are in his care. Older child is the golden child the other the scapegoat. The scapegoat is fiesty and stands up against the abuse although is terribly wounded by it. The golden child goes along desperate for any attention, and is terribly wounded by this too. My gut is telling me her relationship with her dad may be where she is more like his friend/girlfriend emotionally speaking. No signs of any physical/sexual abuse with her.My question is regarding showing my 13 year old scapegoat the list of ways a person can be emotionally abused found on the women’s page of this site. Her father exhibits 13 of the 16 mentioned tactics. I know she feels “crazy” due to his gaslighting and other horrid behaviors. Do you think it wise to let her read the list?I plan to get all 3 of us in therapy again because the girls are acting out again when returning from visits with dad. Things are pretty good when they are with me but all hell breaks loose when they are with him.Thank you.