This website saved me. Thank you!!!Lee
Thank you for your informative site! Wanted to let you know that I have added this link to facebook ALLANS DAY page. Allan is my brother. He was killed by Domestic Violence in 1995 on Dec. 31. This page is dedicated to his memory, to help others and to seek donations for DV causes.Nell Stockdall
Thank you for this website. I’m 22 years old. I have been being abused since I was 18. In all of my relationships. I read a lot of abusive relationship websites, trying to find a way out! With hope that a word or a message will stand and and touch me.When i visited this website I seen the picture to the bleeding hearts, I began to cry. I always think to myself ‘If I were a flower or plant what would I be?’ and the answer is always a bleeding heart. Beautiful, but with a bad name! AND I’M SICK OF BEING A STATISTIC OR A BAD NAME!! I HOPE ONE DAY I WILL BE FREE AND HAPPY LIKE I SHOULD BE!!!!!!!!!!!!TashaEdit Note: Heart 2 Heart underwent extensive updating during Jan 2010, the Bleeding Heart flowers are no longer visible on the website pages. Tasha found them only a few short days before they were forever gone. 🙂
I just wanted to congratulate you on your wonderful website. I just love it. I came upon it quite by accident but read some very valued articles. Thank you.Christine
Thank you for this wonderful information. I have been in an abusive relationship with my sister all of our lives. She uses fear to control & the demeaning & character-assassination due to her jealousies- she became very powerful when our Father passed away, and is getting there again since my Mom has.My husband wants me to avoid her as much as we can, especially through our grieving period. She is controlling & quite unhappy.Joyce
I just wanted to thank you for your wonderful website! Here I found much of the info I had been looking for all in one spot (abuser recovery, my self-esteem, signs of abuse…) Thank you also for granting permission to use this info to help others.Because of my experience I have helped to form a domestic violence support group in my area. Although I have full support of domestic violence shelters from 2 counties I wnat to be sure that I reach every victim of abuse. I’m thinking that I will post the warning signs of abuse (especially verbal/emotional) in every bar, library and grocery store for miles. Of course this will be with full resource siteing(?) not only to acknowledge this awesome supportive person for posting this info(you) but I want everyone to visit here.Thank you from the bottom of my heart,Joni
HelloIt’s about time that someone had the guts and initiative to post a web site such as this. I don’t know where you are located, however I have been seeing a case on the news as recently as yesterday where the police are talking about investigating abuse cases differently. In this case the male had three broken ribs just for a start.I live near *****, Ontario, Canada. I believe that this is going to be aired as a special part of the news tonight. If I can get more details on this I will be sure to let you know. You might want to look into this yourself, It will be a Toronto, Hamilton, or Kitchener Ont. station for sure if not all of them. I believe that in addition to what you are saying, that many, if not most people in our society are not psychologically or socially educated well enough at an early enough age, or possibly ever, to avoid abuse issues. I have a “lot” to say on this issue.Most of us do not know the type of feeling that we should feel around the ” right person ” or really know what to look for. Although a true abuser cannot likely be changed regardless. Everything that you have written is completely true. The laws must start concidering other abuses as being even more serious than physical ie. phsychological. I have a lot more to say on this topic, I also feel that I have a very good understanding of this issue.Over the years I have pondered this situation to the point where I feel that I have some very real and constructive ideas to bring forth. One example of what needs to be looked into, is this : Supposing that two people in their early or mid thirties get married. One spouse has a home with approx. 100k equity built up, and a total of 10k debt, making 30k annually (male in this case). The other spouse makes ” double “,has a good pension, 40k in the bank (spouse) If a separation occurs,lets say two years later, the matrimonial home is divided equally, the debt which was paid off by the frugal one ( male in this case ) will also be deducted, if there are children, there will be support payments etc. ( you get the picture )The one who owned the home will get a grand total of 50%, of two years worth of pension.( NICE abuse tool for those so inclined ), and this is just the law at work at this point. There is a story of a control obsessed mother, and sister in law, all acting on cues from each other, and no one concidering themselves abusive personally, to the best of my knowlege.There is a lot of urgent work to be done, I would like to correspond with you, if that is possible.In this particular situation, I really think that things are alright now, however I believe that I can be of great assistance with this issue . This whole senario has to be brought around to simply ” Spousal Abuse “, and flawed laws that can fuel some real problems. I do realize that you may be overwhelmed with email such as this. However behind this whole senario that I have explained was quite a dramatic story. In summation, men need a place to get real help. Someone has to speak up now !SincerelySteve
I recently began a relationship with a gentleman who was a victim of spousal abuse in his last relationship. I see in him the need to reach out and find resources but I am amazed at how hard these resources are to find! Do you know of a group for him to attend in ******?Thank you for your time and consideration! Your website is going to be a wonderful resource for him.K
I cannot believe I’m reading all of this. I’ve just gone through another day of unbelieveable hell.Al
Thank you for your website and I’m not totally amazed but I went to the page “Are You Being Abused” and to nearly every question on that page I could answer “YES” as to my ex “companion’s” behavior.I made the decision to not see her, email her, text her or call her before I explored this site. Exploring this site allowed me to truly see what I received from her was abuse; whether her words of love were true is immaterial now.The important thing is knowing I was abused and I will never allow her to abuse me ever again.As I write this we haven’t spoken in nearly a week, I won’t call her however after exploring this site I would not be surprised to receive a call from her “apologizing”. I know if I accept her “apology” the cycle will be again unless she receives help…I know she won’t, she will refuse to see that she is the problem.Unfortunately most abusers refuse to seek help.Thank you for your web site and the help it is giving me to stay away from my abuser.Sincerely,Paul
Thank you so much for the heart 2 heart for women website. This is the best information I have found so far in my search for understanding what the hell has happened to me. Thank you for making so much helpful information available and free.Lara