I am engaged to a very special lady that actually I have known for 15 years or so. We have both been married before and both of us have had some issues from our past. Sadly she was in an abusive relationship. To what degree I am still not sure. Our relationship has been very health in considering both of our needs and backgrounds with good communication. We progressed well even to the point of getting engaged and she was happily going about making plans for the wedding. She was just a buzz of happiness, which made me very happy as well. However after a bit that changed. From what I have read so far it seem like she has had sort of a post traumatic episode from her abusive past relationship. I have reassured her of my love and patient support while encouraging her to see a counselor who specializes in this type of thing. The reason I am posting, is I am desperately looking for any resources, books or whatever, that can help me be of the best support I can from the standpoint of understanding as well what I should actually be doing to be of support. I do realize that the key is getting her to a counselor. I think she will do that. She said she is seriously considering it. But please, if there is anything you can share with me I would greatly appreciate it from the depths of my heart.Sincerely, Steven