Regarding warnings from previous “owners” heh heh… I was warned by the woman before me (isn’t that a song?) and I didn’t listen. He had already told me all about her… what a f**ked-up psycho jerk she was. So, I chose to believe him and not believe her. After all, he was so nice and kind and considerate… so perfect. Why would I believe her? She said to me… “He’s not who you think he is.” Truer words were never spoken.After 12 years of living with his crap… I eventually phoned his Xwife, to whom he had been married for 24 years. I started off with… I know this is strange that I am phoning you BUT… blah blah blah.Her first words to me were… He made my life a living hell. I responded with… Yep. Well, he hasn’t changed at all.She was very gracious and kind (though my xah had completely trashed her) and we had a wonderful conversation. I will always be grateful to her for speaking with me. The monster marriage lasted two more years before he discovered his new secretary My question to both of you, Marsh and WB, is… do you think you would have listened had you received a warning or other inside information regarding your SO?Love the Carfax for people idea btw. Hmmmm… PeepFax? SoFax? I just realized after writing this that there is a Carfax for people… it’s called a Private Investigator.