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11Posts:Joined:Posts:Joined:Posts:Joined:Posts:Joined:Location:11Advanced searchFirst unread postyoungwolf7TopTheGirlInsideTopHabozTopMarshall StackTopHeart 2 HeartphpBBpay her a compliment let her make her own decision walk awayinto a room with a lock-able doorWhen you change your role in the relationship dynamic, your partner will probably begin to escalate her hurtful behaviors.What is emotional detachment?when it comes to an emotionally abusive spouse, partner or colleague, it’s not safe to be compassionate and caring in response to their abuse because it makes you a good target for more abuse. It’s only safe to exercise compassion and caring toward an abusive individual from a very safe distancethe conscious choice to not allow another person push your buttons and hurt, anger, frustrate or annoy you1. Downsize her.2. Set boundaries3. Make yourself your first priority4. Observe; don’t react.5. Observe and reframe.Detaching is not about enabling your abuser; it’s about disarming your abuser by eradicating her or his ability to hurt you.1. Make solely responsible for own well-being and happinessyourselfyouryou can’t fix, change, rescue, save, make someone else happy or love someone enough to make them be nice to you3. Eliminate the hooks of your abuser4. Learn to control your body language.5. Lower your expectations.6. Do something that removes you from the abuse and centers you.7. See the big picture and don’t get distracted by her minutiae.KariYou can tear me apart
You can rip me to pieces
You can try to break me down
But i’ll never be beaten…..Don’t get discouraged
Don’t be afraid
You can make it through another day
Make it worth the price we pay
-Rik Emmett