Hi All,I’m in a bit of a pickle, and think you guys might be able to give me some insight.I look like I won’t be able to afford my planned trip back home – with the current economic situation in the UK, I need to cut back severely on spending.My SO has offered to pay my flights, but my Mum (who I adore) has said “No” and is very strongly opposed to me “Putting myself in a situation where I am obliged to him”.I am completely confused as to what to do. Some background:I was in an abusive relationship, and I have struggled to have good, stable relationships with men for the longest time. My SO is someone who feels totally different to me, and we have known each other a long time, including 7 years of No Contact because neither of us wanted to break up his marriage. I would pay him back, and I don’t believe I would be “obligated” to him in the sense of being manipulated.I am the youngest child of my mother, and I know she was depressed when I was younger. I’ve realised my response to this has been to become a “people pleaser” and this has driven me for the longest time. But I want to step off that bandwagon and start living more authentically – and that the first step is to stop “pleasing” her.She on one hand says “I wish someone would look after you” (none of my relationships have been financially equal, and I have ended up with some debts because of this), but on the other hand doesn’t want to admit this man is someone who probably could “look after me”, but not in a financial way, but rather in a way that nourishes my soul.I am feeling very torn here, not knowing whether to go against what she says or forefit the holiday.What do I do? Any thoughts from you all?