I was searching the internet and found this site. I hope and pray some one can help me. I am quite honestly at the end of my rope and don’t know where to turn and what to do. My daughter is 33 years old. She is beautiful, college educated, owns her own successful business, her own home, is divorced and has two beautiful little girls, ages 7 and 4. She met a man this summer. He swept her off her feet, moved in with her within a few weeks, and basically sponged off of her. He had no job, no car, nothing. He had already been to jail for battery of a girlfriend. He told her this, but she choose to ignore it. He of course told her how beautiful she was, how wonderful, etc. I knew immediately there was something wrong with him, he had such rages, and would lose his temper so easily. He also drank and was very abusive when he did. I tried to talk to her, but she stood up for him telling me what a good guy he really was, how wonderful he was to her and her daughters most of the time. He started beating her. The first time he just hit her and gave her a fat lip. The second time he shoved her down and kicked her. She was scared enough that she bought him a plane ticket and sent him back to his home state. He then returned a few weeks later, and she let him back. Within a few weeks he held a gun to her and held her hostage for 7 hours threatening to kill her. Thank goodness her little girls were always with me when he would do these things. She then bought him another plane ticket, and sent him away again. She even came and stayed with me until he flew out because she was afraid for her life. He then came back a few weeks later, and she let him back again. This time it only took 3 weeks and he beat her again. This time it was horrible. He almost killed her. He video taped some of it, on the tape he said she would be dead by morning. The prosecuting attorney said that it was one of the most horriffic cases he has ever seen. I’m not even going to post the details, but I will say that what he did was to torture her for over 5 hrs, With screwdrivers, a hot iron, kicked and hit her over 100 times with a ballbat, etc. It is a miracle she is alive. They have charged him with 2 felonies, for a total of 30 years. He is probably going to take a plea bargain and get 15 years. Mostly due to the fact that my daughter does not want it to go to trial. She doesn’t want to tesitify against him. The prosecuting attorney is very angry with her. The man is so violent we discovered that she is his 4th victim. He is a con man and he does this to women with small children. He wants to put him away for the full 30 years, but is going to do a plea because he can’t trust what my daughter will say on a witness stand.She still loves him. I just can’t understand how you can be almost killed by someone and still love him. I don’t know what to do. She is trying to be in contact with him, which is forbidden by the courts. If she had the money she would bail him out of jail, and he would be back with her. She won’t listen to me, or her friends. Everyone is about ready to just cut her out of their lives. Her friends just don’t know how to deal with it. I am so worried for her and my granddaughters. I keep them overnight alot, as she isn’t much of a mom right now. She won’t listen to me, and she won’t go get help from a therapist. She cancels every appt she makes. What can I do? How do I cope with this? Do I stick beside her and watch her ruin her life? Do I do tough love and take her children away from her and let her hit rock botten? I am so stressed I can’t sleep, I am a mess. She is mad at anyone who doesn’t understand her love for him. He is a con man and a user. HE is mentally ill and a physcopath. Why can’t she see that. IS her selfesteem and self worth so low that she thinks that this is really love? Please, any insite you can give me on what to do next would be greatly appreciated.